Sex talks : the five conversations that will transform your love life

Title:

Author:

Summary:

Demonstrating how to actually talk about sex, a sex therapist and her husband cover the five essential conversations every couple needs to have, sharing their successful advice and tried-and-tested tools for creating an extraordinary sex life.

Edition:

First Simon Element hardcover edition.

Contents:

Part one: All about you. Destroying the fucking fairy tale ; Creating your user manual ; Setting your rules of engagement ; Building the foundation for your sex talks -- Part two: The five sex talks. The first conversation: Acknowledgment ; The second conversation: Connection ; The third conversation: Desire ; The fourth conversation: Pleasure ; The fifth conversation: Exploration -- Part three: Keeping the twin flames alive for life. What to do when conversations go off the rails ; Making sex a priority ; Falling back in love, for the rest of your life ; Don't stop! ; Quiz: Identifying your conversational starting point.

Physical Description:

xix, 245 pages ; 22 cm

Subject Term:

Sex.

Communication in sex.

Interpersonal communication.

Intimacy (Psychology)

Author(s):

Marin, Xander,

Publisher:

Simon Element,

Publication Date:

2023

ISBN:

9781668000014

Publication Information:

New York : Simon Element, 2023.

Call Number:

306.7 MARIN

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The definitive guide to creating the sex life of your wildest dreams--just by talking about it!--from sexpert couple Vanessa and Xander Marin.

INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER
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Why is it so hard to talk about sex, even with the person who regularly sees you naked?

You know communication is important in a relationship, but you just don't know how to get started with such a sensitive subject. Maybe you've never talked about sex at all, and the thought of it makes your palms sweat. Or you're feeling so disconnected from your partner that sex is the last thing on your mind. Maybe you're too scared to be honest about what you really want. Or you have no freaking clue what you want, so you're not sure how to tell your partner anything helpful!

Sex Talks "helps us overcome the myths that drag us down" (John Gottman, New York Times bestselling author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work ). Together, sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband, Xander, show you that the best thing you can do for your sex life doesn't even involve taking off your clothes.

Sex Talks covers the five essential conversations every couple needs to have:
1. Acknowledgement: a.k.a. "Sex is a thing, and we have it."
2. Connection: a.k.a. "What do we need to feel connected to each other?"
3. Desire: a.k.a. "What do we each need to get turned on?"
4. Pleasure: a.k.a. "What do we each need to feel good?"
5. Exploration: a.k.a. "What should we try next?"

With gripping storytelling and an intimate peek at what really goes on behind other couples' closed bedroom doors, Vanessa and Xander share their successful advice that has already helped thousands of clients. Sex Talks "redefines what it means to have great sex" (Logan Ury, author of How to Not Die Alone ), providing the sex education you wish you'd had, plus the tried-and-tested tools you need to create the sex life of your wildest dreams.

Author Notes

Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy. She has bachelor's degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University and a master's degree in counseling psychology. She has written for The New York Times , Allure , and Lifehacker , and has been featured many times in major publications like Oprah Daily , Harper's Bazaar , Vogue , and Real Simple .

Xander Marin is a regular dude who left a cushy career in tech once he realized it was more fun to talk about sex with his wife all day. He's here to show you that you don't need a graduate degree or a license to have extraordinary communication skills--you just need to have an open mind and willingness!

Reviews (1)

Publisher's Weekly Review

In this approachable debut, sex therapist Vanessa Marin and husband Xander Marin propose that better communication makes for better sex. Marin asserts that, though often discouraged by social or religious taboos, frank discussion about sex is vital for couples looking to improve both physical and emotional intimacy. Debunking Hollywood portrayals of sex with "chemistry so intense you can... feel it through the screen," Marin urges readers to abandon notions of "sexual perfection" and open up about one's desires to a partner. Marin outlines how to begin the conversation ("talking about sex has to start with even acknowledging " ) and to discuss connection, desire, pleasure, and exploration. Chapters contain useful suggestions for handling potential conversational pitfalls, and sample questions ("What are your three to five favorite ways to receive love?"). Marin also strives for inclusivity for readers of all sexual orientations. Periodic asides from Xander complement Marin's therapist's perspective with "regular dude" commentary on the same issues, suggesting, for example, low-pressure ways to initiate intimidating conversations. Compassionate and witty, Marin makes what many find a challenging discussion manageable, even for readers with little idea of where to start. Anyone looking to improve their communication with a partner will find valuable takeaways. (Feb.)