The sh!t no one tells you about divorce : a guide to breaking up, falling apart, and putting yourself back together

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Title:

The sh!t no one tells you about divorce : a guide to breaking up, falling apart, and putting yourself back together

Alternate title:

Shit no one tells you about divorce

Author:

Dais, Dawn, author.

Summary:

"Dawn Dais knows all about life's rollercoasters. In fact, she's made a career of writing books about them. Whether she was going from couch potato to marathoner, navigating pregnancy, or tackling parenting, her books have become go to guides for honest, been there done that wisdom delivered with wicked humor. But what do you do when life blindsides you with a challenge that is decidedly less entertaining? After twelve years of domestic partnership, five properties, two children, and ten animals, Dawn and her partner decided to call it quits. In the book, Dawn takes readers along as she tries to figure out what happened and what happens next. It turns out that the road to renewal is bumpy, meandering, and often absurd. There will be therapy, there will be exercise plans, there will be lawyers, there will be tarot cards, and there will be an unfortunate number of dating app profiles that look like the beginning of a Dateline episode. Combing her own experiences with the input of her gallery of divorced friends who have made it out the other side, the result is a true to life and funnier than it should be guide that helps readers navigate a life blown apart and embrace the unique opportunity to put things back together in better ways"-- Provided by publisher.

Edition:

First edition.

Contents:

Introduction -- The long goodbye -- Divorce announcements should be a thing -- Blowing things up -- Moving on and moving out -- The seven stages of divorce -- All the therapy -- Who gets custody of the friends -- Assembling your team -- Co-parenting part 1 -- Single parenting -- All the time in the world -- Your replacement -- You'll miss the towels most of all -- The wild west of dating apps -- Belly flopping into the dating pool -- The first post-split relationship -- When the law gets involved -- Co-parenting part 2 -- Learning curve -- Letting go -- Forgiveness -- New you -- The other side.

Physical Description:

x, 228 pages ; 21 cm

Subject Term:

Divorce.

Self-actualization (Psychology)

Publisher:

Hachette Go,

Publication Date:

2023

ISBN:

9780306828546

Publication Information:

New York : Hachette Go, 2023.

Call Number:

306.89 DAIS

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Summary

A bestselling author offers a refreshingly honest, compassionate guide to the sh!tstorm that is divorce: falling apart, staying afloat, and new beginnings (whether you are ready for them or not).

After 12 years together, 2 children, 10 pets, and 5 properties, Dawn and her partner decided to call it quits. In the newest installment of her bestselling  Sh!t No One Tells You  series, Dawn tries to figure out what happened... and what happens next.

Dawn takes you on her own bumpy, meandering, and often absurd journey through the destruction of a life exploded by divorce. She dodges legal hurdles, irrational decisions, alarmed therapists, random hobbies, and a concerning number of dating app profiles that look like the beginning of a true crime podcast. But somehow, she found herself stronger--and happier--on the other side.

Leaning into the mess, Dawn helps you learn the art of embracing Netflix and cry, the healing power of profanity, the importance of assembling the right support squad, how to survive the sh!tshow of co-parenting, and much more. Joined by an insightful chorus of divorced friends, Dawn delivers a true-to-life and funnier-than-it-should-be guide to discovering the unexpected value in the wreckage. What if divorce isn't just a loss--but an opportunity?

Author Notes

Dawn Dais is the author of  The Sh!t No One Tells You... series, The Nonrunner's Marathon Guide for Women , and more. She has been featured by countless TV and print media sources. She lives in Roseville, California, with her two kids, one dog, four chickens, two cats, and the occasional mouse brought into the home by said cats. She is tired.

Reviews (2)

Publisher's Weekly Review

The humorous latest in Dais's Sh!t No One Tells You series (after The Sh!t No One Tells You About Pregnancy) digs into how to survive a divorce. Dais, drawing on the end of her 12-year marriage, offers strategies on how to get through the separation and successfully coparent. She recounts how after she and her wife agreed to separate, she found out her wife was seeing someone new and "exploded," throwing out their carefully laid divorce plans and insisting on immediate decoupling. To avoid such rash outcomes, she suggests taking walks to clear one's head. On dating after divorce, she encourages readers to be forthright with dates about what kind of relationship they're seeking and to refrain from ghosting. Dais warns that coparenting might never be easy and admits she had to lower her own expectations: "Maybe landing somewhere between high fives and blatant animosity is not a horrible place to reside after the implosion of a family unit." The guidance is largely geared toward separations in which both parents remain in the children's lives, but the author's animated style will appeal to anyone going through a divorce. One is unlikely to find a funnier guide to surviving divorce. (Jan.)

Library Journal Review

Divorce is stressful at best and can be quite traumatic for individuals who are blindsided by their partner's decision to end the marriage. Dais's addition to her "The Sh!t No One Tells You" series provides practical and supportive suggestions for surviving divorce and its aftermath. In clear, and, at times, profane language, the author describes her successes and failures during the dissolution of her marriage to her wife and its impact on her relationship with their children. The author discusses all aspects of divorce including its legalities, co-parenting, dealing with an ex-spouse's new relationships, therapy, and dating. Readers will discover suggestions for filling their time to combat loneliness. The author stresses the importance of developing a support system to assist readers through this ordeal. Dais describes the steps of divorce and suggests the ultimate goal is to develop acceptance, along with forgiveness, of both one's spouse and one's self. VERDICT While some readers will appreciate the author's no-nonsense approach, others may be turned off by references to casual sex and drug use. Readers will learn that surviving divorce is a process, but contentment is possible if one is willing to do the work to achieve it.--Lydia Olszak